2011年5月23日星期一

人生的十之八九

新加坡联合早报 2011-05-21

高极登:人生的十之八九

2011-05-21

● 高极登

  学者柯维(Stephen Covey)提出了90/10理论(The 90/10 Principle),说明人生中一成的因素在我们的控制之外,其余九成是可以左右的,也就是说命运很大程度上掌握在我们手里。

  他举例说,一家人吃早餐,孩子不小心打翻了牛奶弄脏了父亲的衣服,父亲生气破口大骂孩子,又怪妻子不把杯子放好,吵了起来。父亲气冲冲换了衣服,因为耽搁,孩子错过了上学的公车,父亲飞车送孩子上学,又赶去上班,路上被交警抄牌,结果双双迟到,在公司里心情不好,下班回家与妻儿有了芥蒂。

  到底是谁的错?打翻杯子是我们控制不到的意外,但接下来的反应在于我们,假如父亲不当一回事,马上更衣,肯定可以从容的上班。这就叫忍一时风平浪静,退一步海阔天空。

  因为一时间反应错误,惹来一连串的失误,很不明智,不是吗?听过瞪眼风波吧,因为一个瞪眼两方大打出手,甚至闹出人命,一生就为一个瞪眼给毁了,好不值得。

  交通阻塞、飞机误点、一个鲁莽的司机切入我们的车道,这些是我们所控制不到的,但我们可以控制反应,比方飞机误点,和地勤人员吵闹也不济事,因为这也不是他们能控制的,不如随遇而安,看些书或和其他乘客交谈,说不定有意想不到的收获。交通事故,发飚也于事无补,不如好好地欣赏收音机广播,当作是偷闲。

  我把这个理论译作“十之八九”,90/10只是个比例,也可以是80/20。失业了,沮丧也没有用,不如化悲愤为力量,积极进修寻找新的工作,话说回来,若把持“十之八九”原则,未雨绸缪,根本不会失业。

  大而广之,用在人生上,出生在哪个国家、是男是女、先天基因组合,我们不能控制,小时候一切由父母安排,少年时可以有些主见,及至成年,完全可以自己作主。

  但是身为父母,可以作出很多抉择,关键在于一个钱字,他们可以选择孩子的出身地,比方到发达国生产,可以通过人工受孕选择性别,选择上什么名校;更先进的,未来人类可能连一些遗传病都可以通过基因改造加以避免。

  现代管理学有所谓个人、时间、策略管理,要上什么大学,修读什么课程,到什么公司工作,几时结婚,生几个孩子,什么时候赚到人生的第一桶金,什么时候退休等等,你可以作很多的五年计划。

有一句话,人算不如天算,就以结婚来说,有人为了事业拼搏迟婚,及至想结婚,未必找到适意对象,尤其是女强人,找到对象也未必走得成,失恋之余,再回头一下子老了几岁,人生中不同阶段做不同的事,人到中年,可能再没恋爱的冲动,就这么蹉跎了岁月。

  先进国人口下滑,我想很多时候就是因为算计得太多,预估中年失业、病痛,想到生育越多,分享越少,于是选择少生或是不生,既是不生,又何必结婚?

  人无远虑,必有近忧是我的座右铭,你今天的处境,今天的果取决于昨日的因——没有遵照十之八九理论。这理论说实在没啥新意,很多智者早就论及,只是没有人把它具体化成理论。

  人生不如意事常八九,大大小小的琐事无穷无尽,如果凡事担忧,永无宁日,可能临死还在担忧上不了天堂;所以要学会放得开,遇有事故,专家说先吸一口清气冷静,然后理智地应对,恭自厚而薄责于人,则远怨矣;包管你顺顺利利。

作者是本报新闻编辑

2011年5月17日星期二

随变 (by 李永乐)

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新加坡联合早报 - 副刊 (2011-05-17)

随变

(2011-05-17)

● 李永乐

客船钟声

  最近的天气酷热,中午出门上班,即便穿越大片树阴的公园,还是被热出一身的汗,但这是我自寻的境界,因为工作在冷气场所,下班后晚风和月光伴随,上午起床较晚,偶尔晒晒太阳也算难得。

  其实我包包里随时备伞,真感觉炎热难当,立刻张伞遮阳,一点儿都不困难,所以根本不必抱怨天气,关键在于做好应变的准备。与其心情随环境而起伏,不如转为主动,让环境随心而转,随遇而安更轻松。

  地球运行有所谓的自转和公转,由此可见“转动”是生存的必然,一种姿势维持久了,再不动一动的话,就会因固化而僵化,自己觉得别扭,别人看得也不舒服。

  人生有着不同的阶段、也得出现在不同舞台,扮演多种的角色,面对不一样的人和事,所以不可能一成不变,姿态可以千变万化,只要诚心和善意始终如一,就不是坏人或坏事。

  “适时转动”不仅是一个姿势,它实际上是重新审视、调整角度与位置的积极行为,因为外在世界保持动态,我们身为当中的一分子,当然也要机动。

  人间事态变化多端,人生运程起伏不定,角色互换、机遇浮沉,都是变态中的常态,也是常态中的变态,参透这层关系,对于得与失便能平常看待,因为到头来,生命不过是镜花水月,何须过于执著。

  倘若如此,对于施恩于人,人家是否懂得知恩图报,就不必太过计较了。其实布施是一种善行,受恩的人是给施恩者,一个很好的积德机会,施恩者反过来应该感谢对方才是,然而做到这点并不容易。

  给了人家恩惠,就要对方心存感激,时不时还要提醒:我曾经有恩于你,你怎么就忘记了呢?受恩之人本有感恩之心,也想回报对方,但施恩者一再叮嘱,并且还要受恩者告诉子孙,久而久之,有的人就要产生逆反心理了。

所以说,“适时转动”是必须的,因为时间、空间、环境、人心,无时无刻在发生变化,人的价值观、想法、期望值,都在一条不断改变的道路上,采取同样的姿态、站在同样的高度,所看到的景观已截然不同,调整当然就很有必要了。  

  真正的与时并进,还是在顺应改变当中,保持平衡与平静的心态,做人做事应该认真负责,绝对不能随便,但必须懂得“随变”,这样不论晴天雨天,都能够坦然自若。

2011年5月12日星期四

偷赌场电缆变卖当赌本 客工判坐牢7个月(有关新加坡赌场的罪案)

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偷赌场电缆变卖当赌本 客工判坐牢7个月

新加坡联合早报(2011-05-12)

一名印度籍客工要到滨海湾金沙赌场去搏杀,苦于没有本钱,便结伙偷窃赌场储藏室的电缆来变卖作赌本,结果全体四人落网,其中三人早已治罪,各坐牢7个月,最后这名被告昨天也被判坐牢7个月。

  控状指被告卡科扬(30岁)于今年2月13日晚上9时25分左右,联同三名印度籍客工,即姆鲁杰山、拉山马及班尼亚,结伙偷窃赌场储藏室五种不同大小的电缆,总值1万2180元。被告认罪。

  主控官说,储藏室就置在金沙赌场停车场的底层。负责人发现储藏室入贼后,观看闭路电视的摄影片底,看到被告和他的同谋偷窃的经过,便据情报案。

  被告向法官求情时披露,他很想到金沙赌场赌博,但没有钱,才出此下策。

把别人筹码占为己有 中国客工判坐牢九周 (有关新加坡赌场的罪案)

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新加坡联合早报 (2011-05-12)

把别人筹码占为己有 中国客工判坐牢九周

(2011-05-12)

一名中年妇女到滨海湾金沙赌场赌博,在荷官揭开骰子,开出“1,4,6”三个号码后,她大失所望,以为全军覆没了,转身就走。

  然而,她忘了自己也下注了“1”号,获赔250元。坐在她身旁同时也下注“1”号的另一名赌客,见她离场,萌生贪念,顺手就把价值250元的筹码据为己有。

  不过,他的行为被赌场荷官发现,最后落网,昨天在法庭认罪后被判入狱9周。

  被告是中国籍男子倪国建(45岁,建筑工人,译音),被控今年3月21日下午2时26分左右,在滨海湾金沙赌场一个赌台上触犯上述罪行。

  主控官说,当时被告正在俗称赌大小的赌台上输了400元,手上只剩15元。正在苦思如何翻本之际,突然见到“横财从天而降”,喜出望外,急忙将妇女的筹码据为己有。荷官陈女士见状,问被告是否代朋友收筹码,被告答:“是的。”被告离去后,荷官越想越不对劲,随即报告保安员,将被告截住查究。

2011年5月11日星期三

Skype当“课室 学习无边界

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新加坡联合早报 - 副刊2011-05-11, Tuesday

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Skype当“课室 学习无边界

2011-05-11

● 黄俊贤

  Skype,著名的网络即时语音沟通软件,有了它,我们可以和远在地球另一端的朋友聊天,距离不再是问题。其实通过Skype,学习也能够变得无边界。邱礼杰就利用Skype,向外国著名鼓手如Dom FamularoMaksym Deomin 学习,而他在去年开始,也利用Skype开班授课,教导马来西亚、印度尼西亚及台湾的学生。

  31岁的邱礼杰是本地摇滚乐团“The UnXpected”的鼓手,经常到本地娱乐场所如Wala WalaTimbre @ Arts House的人,应该不会对他感到陌生。

  2006年时,通过朋友的介绍,邱礼杰才知道Skype这个沟通软件,但他只是利用它和居住在国外的亲戚朋友沟通。现在,Skype对他来说,却是生命中不可缺少的平台。

在加拿大和老师见面

  邱礼杰从11岁开始学习打鼓,去年年头开始利用Skype来学习。

  他说,自己在2009年到加拿大旅游时,和在加拿大的老师Maksym在那里碰面,并向他学习打鼓。

  他们先在社交网站面簿(Facebook)交谈,过后邱礼杰发现自己住的地方和老师的家不远,在“打鼓基因”的发作下,他立刻和老师见面并学鼓。他笑着说:“原本应该是到那里度假,但就是受不了打鼓的诱惑。”

  在旅行的最后一天,他就想,到底要怎样继续向老师学习呢?于是,他们想到了Skype

距离不再是问题

邱礼杰回到新加坡后,他立刻尝试和老师Skype,并继续向他学习打鼓,结果效果出乎两人的意料之外。邱礼杰和Maksym都认为Skype的好处是方便、便宜,距离再也不是问题。

  邱礼杰解释说,只需要一台电脑,登录Skype,与对方进行视像交谈,就能轻松地坐在电脑前学鼓,而且也不用在乎自己的穿着,因为看不到下半身!

  他说,通过Skype学鼓的收费,是每个小时75美元(约92新元),而以前如果要向国外著名的鼓手学鼓,通常要等他们来新加坡,也只能上一两堂课,因此收费还算公平。通过Skype向国外鼓手学习,也能够省下机票费用。

迟缓现象把错误看得更清楚

  利用Skype毕竟要依赖网络和电脑,因此当上网的速度太慢时,屏幕偶尔会出现迟缓(lag)现象。但是邱礼杰说:“碰到画面迟缓的时候,其实对学习乐器有好处,因为你和老师都能够清楚地看到对方的动作,如果发现错误,就能立刻纠正!”

  另一个会发生的问题就是时差,毕竟Maksym身在加拿大,和新加坡的时差大约12小时。现在虽然Maksym去了乌克兰,但也有五小时的时差,因此他和邱礼杰通常都在下午上课。

  邱礼杰现在也利用Skype来教课,学生来自台湾、马来西亚和印度尼西亚,收费也是一小时75美元。

  另外,裕廊西小学的学生在2009年也利用Skype,和远在美国加州Bill Williams Elementary School的学生沟通并学习,足以见得Skype在教育方面的潜质。

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2011年5月7日星期六

Must see! Very Informative Youtube : (Singapore) Healthcare Is Unaffordable

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Must see! Very Informative Youtube : (Singapore) Healthcare Is Unaffordable
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Note: Very informative youtube video for the people of Singapore even after GE2011 is over.

Dr Paul Tambyah said in Mandarin, "在新加坡,可以死,不可以病!"

Title: Senior Consultant Dr Paul Tambyah Says Healthcare Is Unaffordable



Snr Consultant Dr Paul Tambyah Says (Singapore) Healthcare Is Unaffordable

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Info Source: http://www.sammyboy.com/showthread.php?91911-Snr-Consultant-Dr-Paul-Tambyah-Says-Healthcare-Is-Unaffordable

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Snr Consultant Dr Paul Tambyah Says (Singapore) Healthcare Is Unaffordable

"Text of Sr Consultant Dr Paul Tambyah's speech at SDP's Rally

THURSDAY, 05 MAY 2011
Dr Paul Tambyah

Friends, fellow Singaporeans

My name is Paul Ananth Tambyah. I am a doctor working at a major local university hospital. I am not a member of the SDP partly because I work in a corporatized civil service organisation and as you know, civil servants cannot enter politics unless they are unemployed. I am grateful to the SDP for giving me this opportunity to be a guest speaker at this famous historical platform. I am speaking entirely in my personal capacity. I am not a politician. I am still doing my national service and in fact have two SAF 100s sitting in my inbox despite the fact that my job involves saving lives.

As a medical doctor, I come into contact with patients on a regular basis. I hear them tell me that in Singapore, you can afford to die but you cannot afford to get sick. I see people who have to sell their homes and move into rental flats to pay for their medical bills. Do you think this is right?

They are Singaporeans just like the Health Minister and his millionaire colleagues. If they need a bypass, they have to pay much more than $8/- in cash. At the very minimum, they have to pay cash for the Specialist Outpatient Clinic charges before admission. I have written letters, articles, posted on Mr Khaw’s facebook page, met him in Feedback sessions. He gives me polite answers but nothing changes. That is why I am here today - To ask you to help me to send him a message. I just wanted to send him a simple message to have a heart for Singaporeans who are sick. Now I realise that the message that you are sending is a little stronger – you want to send him somewhere.

Mr Khaw is a good administrator. He was the CEO of NUH when I was a medical student and ran the hospital with a much smaller staff than any of the current restructured hospitals. But he seems to have run out of ideas for Singapore’s healthcare. It is good that he is finally listening to the voice of the people but perhaps it is a little too late. He might need to seek alternative employment and would make a very good administrator of a nursing home in Johor Bahru.

The problems with our healthcare system are known to you all – mostly they are about money.

The major source of healthcare financing is Medisave – the first of the three Ms. Most patients in hospital are elderly. They have little in their Medisave accounts and depend on their children. Fortunately for that generation, they had many children and their children’s Medisave can cover most of their hospital bills. My generation however, is the “stop at two” generation. We have even fewer children ourselves. When we get sick, who is going to be able to pay our bills if we depend primarily on Medisave as our own Medisave is depleted for the previous generation.

Medishield is a compulsory health insurance program that we all have to pay into from the time we are born. Problem is that it excludes congenital illnesses and mental illnesses which affect 5% of the Singapore population. It is the only national compulsory health insurance in the world that practices such cherry picking.

Medifund the endowment fund is limited to those who have already sold their homes and exhausted their children’s Medisave. Every year it is not fully utilised as it is so restrictive.

These problems however, are more than just theoretical ones. They affect the lives of ordinary Singaporeans. A Patient of mine has an infection that has caused him a stroke. He needs medication that costs more than $250 a day.

There is no subsidy for this medication . It is recommended in all the guidelines including local guidelines. If he does not take this medication, he will most likely have another stroke and could even die. I tried to help him by appealing to the medical social worker.

We received the reply that he was unlikely to get help as he lives in a private condo with one of his sons. The other five siblings are not well off but this one son living in a condo disqualifies this citizen of Singapore from financial assistance.

We even went to the extent of writing a prescription so he could buy his medications in Johor Baru but this did not work.

How many people do you know living in condos with their own families can afford to pay $250 a day or $7500 a month for medications for three to six months on top of the needs of their own families??? There is something seriously wrong with our system.

The SDP has an alternative proposal. It is a well thought out document and can be crystallised into a number of key points. First, increase the investment in healthcare to first world levels. In fiscal year 2009, the Singapore government spent only 1.4% of GDP on healthcare – the lowest in the developed world. This is partly because our population is still young but it is also because such a large proportion of healthcare costs are borne by the people – you and I – mainly through our Medisave – our own money. One of the key elements in the SDP plan, their shadow budget and in their economic plan is raising the healthcare budget significantly up to three times.

Second, focus on primary healthcare by bringing care to the people using nurse practitioners and allied health professionals in void deck health centers. These do not need to be run by doctors – nurses and physiotherapists and occupational therapists can manage chronic illnesses much more responsively and cost-effectively.

Third, reduce the crunch on healthcare workers in public hospitals by allowing GPs and specialists to work in the public hospitals. Singapore does not really have a shortage of doctors (unless our population really gets to 6.5 million) – it is more a problem of maldistribution. Public hospital doctors and nurses are overworked and overstressed. Doctors and nurses are leaving the public hospitals en masse because of work conditions. Once they leave, however, many GPs end up with problems paying the exorbitant rentals demanded by the HDB and other landlords. They thus have to raise charges or are forced to do cosmetic procedures. These hard working skilled Singaporean GPs could be better deployed in our public hospitals instead of depending on overseas foreign medical staff who may not speak the local languages.

Healthcare is not the only area where a message needs to be sent from the people of Singapore. My 73 year old mother has dedicated her entire adult life to the support of disabled children because she believes that every child should be allowed to develop to their fullest potential regardless of disability.

She started Singaproe’s first school for multiple disabled children and the first program to comprehensively integrate children with disabilities into mainstream schools. She was Singapore’s woman of the year in 1994.

How much did she get paid for all this? Nothing! We were fortunate that my Dad worked hard and had a good job but she worked tirelessly, often late into the night because of passion and love, not for money or power.

Right now, her major campaign is for disabled children to be included for compulsory education in SG. This is what the parents want, it is only fair. In fact, it will save the government money in the long term if all disabled children are educated and are less of a burden on society when they grow older.

But this is something that the current government does not seem to understand. As we have seen with Jee Say’s economic masterpiece, a government that is obsessed with annual KPIs and short term gains,cannot see far enough into the future. They cannot see how an investment in people can bring Singapore up to the next stage of development in the long run.

Vote wisely this election for yourself, your children, your grandchildren, your neighbours, young , old, Sick, well, we are all Singaporeans.

Do not be afraid that someone will track your vote. It is impossible. They cannot even catch a limping man in a baju kurung swimming across the sea with a rubber ducky how are they going to track down the more than one million Singaporeans who will vote for alternative parties on Saturday!

Like Mr Tan Jee Say, I voted for the opposition the last time I voted. In 1991, I voted for the Singapore Democratic Party. Nobody knew how I voted. I have received several promotions in both work and even in my reservist unit.

Last night, I spoke at the Rally in Sembawang. No one in authority called me up to tell me that my career was over. My Dean and Vice Chancellor are good and reasonable people and they value a diversity of views as they know that this is good for Singapore. Finance Minister Tharman has said on TV that it would be good for Singapore to have a strong opposition.

My time is running out. These are excellent people here in the SDP lineup. Like many in the PAP, they want the best for Singapore. Unlike the PAP, they do not demand huge financial rewards for serving the country. They also have a very different vision of how to achieve the best for Singapore. It is not a top down, “we know better” approach but it is all about you. Two weeks of campaigning have made the government finally listen to the people – make unprecedented apologies, take notice of the issues. Think what five years could do.

Dr Vivian Balakrishnan is an excellent eye surgeon. Singapore needs good eye surgeons. You can help return him to clinical practice. I wish I could vote in Yuhua, Bt Panjang, Holland Bukit Timah or Sembawang but I live in Tanjong Pagar. I was denied the right to vote by 35 seconds., That is the Singapore of today. IT does not have to be the Singapore of tomorrow. The future is in your hands vote wisely. Thank you."


ST Forum of the Straits Times dated May 6, 2011

Doctor shortage: Beef up the local intake

HEALTH Minister Khaw Boon Wan pointed to a shortage of doctors and nurses while dismissing the Singapore Democratic Party's proposal to operate mini polyclinics in void decks ('Opposition has strange ideas on health care: Khaw'; Wednesday).

To overcome the shortage, shouldn't Mr Khaw consider increasing the annual intake of medical students?

My son was among the first batch of International Baccalaureate (IB) graduates. He was rejected by the National University of Singapore's medical school but was accepted by Monash University, University of New South Wales and University of Tasmania.

As he did not benefit from any government subsidy for his medical studies, is there any genuine and concerted effort by the Health Ministry to convince people like him to return and serve the nation after they graduate?

Peter Yan

国大医院医生: (新加坡)保健制度缺陷严重

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新加坡联合早报2011-05-06

国大医院医生: 保健制度缺陷严重

2011-05-06

一名男子中风后,每天需要花250元医药费。他无法承担这笔钱,于是向医疗社工求情,不料对方说他有个儿子住在公寓,所以不太可能获得援助。

  事实上,这名男子有五个不太富裕的孩子。姑且不论这点,又有多少和家人同住一间公寓的人,一天能为父母的医药费支付250元,也就是一个月7500元。

  国大医院传染病医药高级顾问保罗·淡比雅(Paul Tambyah)副教授,(于5/5/2011)在为(新加坡2011大选)民主党站台时提到他近日碰到的这个病人,借此说明政府实行的保健制度存在严重缺陷。

  他指出,他曾经在卫生部长许文远的面簿上提出对医疗制度的看法,不过部长除了礼貌地回应外,并没有做出什么改变,所以他决定到场发言。

  他说:“我们的保健制度问题在于大部分都是出自保健储蓄(Medisave)。很多医院的病人是年长者,他们的保健储蓄里没什么钱,需要靠孩子的保健储蓄。好在我们父母这一代有很多孩子,他们能够承担父母的医药费。”

  不过,他这代的孩子较少。当他们生病时,如果只靠自己的保健储蓄,而它已经被上一代花光,住院费用要怎样支付,就很难想象了。

  淡比雅也指出,健保双全(Medishield)这个强制性的健康保险不保障的地方太多,全球没有一个保健制度是这样挑三挑四(cherry picking)的。

  他认为民主党的“影子医疗保健计划”能够针对目前的处境对症下药。首先,是把保健的花费提升至第一世界水平。

  他说:“在2009年,保健开支占我国国内生产总值的1.6%,是发达国家中最低的。国人应该花更多自己的纳税钱在自己的健康上。

  他也指出,民主党提议在组屋底层增设诊所,行动党人却说医生不够。事实上,这类诊所可由护士、物理治疗师等人运作,为民众提供具有成本效益的护理。

他也语带讽刺地说道,新加坡并不缺医生,除非人口有一天增加至650万。问题其实在于分布不均匀。在公共医院工作的医生工作量负荷不来,而他们离开后,开诊所,却发现租金太昂贵。

2011年5月1日星期日

偷4.2万元筹码  赌场荷官判坐牢13个月

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新加坡联合早报(2011-04-30)


偷4.2万元筹码  赌场荷官判坐牢13个月

(2011-04-30)


● 谢婷婷 报道

  一名赌场荷官监守自盗,一个月里12次施展空空妙手,偷走赌场总额4万2000元的筹码。

  为免被人发现,他起初每次只偷一个筹码,每个面额1000元或5000元,手法是在值班时,把赌桌上的筹码塞进右边袖口,然后趁旁人不注意,举起右手把袖口的筹码摇进袖子里。

  后来,他改变手法,把筹码塞进衣领,或藏入鞋里,连偷三次,其中两次一口气取走四个筹码。

  当天,林金友(28岁)的偷窃行为终于被同事发现,赌场于是召警捉人。警员调看闭路电视录像后,证实他行窃,当场逮捕他。

  被告林金友认罪后,昨天在一项失信罪名下,被判坐牢13个月。

  另一项私藏筹码在家而触犯赌场控制法令的控状,则让法官下判时考虑。

  调查显示,被告在去年12月2日至29日间,共12次偷走滨海湾金沙赌场18个筹码。筹码到手后,他找来三个身份不名的赌客,帮他把偷来的筹码兑换成现金,每次给他们500元至800元的酬劳。

  警方在他住处,搜获面额共1万3000元的九个筹码,以及8000元贼赃,余款已被他花光。被告至今没有归还窃款。

  被告来自马来西亚,是本地永久居民。

失信罪的最高刑罚是坐牢15年,或外加罚款。